When you are use to doing one thing over and over again it becomes the norm. It's hard to change, it becomes a habit. Good or bad, that's how it goes. Plain and simple, repetition of any kind becomes habit. If you go to the gym, run, eat healthy or if you smoke, drink, do drugs, or if you enable, are codependent, it's all the same…. Change is never easy. You have to be willing, have motivation and often times help from outside sources.
We all have a vision, dream or goal how we want our lives to be. We can say things to ourselves everyday, like…. I wish I had a better job, better shape, car, relationship, I wish I could stop drinking, stop using drugs, stop being so angry.
Unless we make an effort by first realizing our issues and acknowledging our part in them, and until we try reaching out for help and following through with advice, a set plan, and we take actionable steps to ensure a positive outcome, we will never reach our goals.
It's easy to get sidetracked and feel sorry for yourself when you hit a bump in the road. If you keep repeating patterns you will always have the same outcome. It's time to change what you've been doing and get on a new path.
There are many resources out there including then ones on this website. If you are given advice from professionals, do yourself a favor and take it! Take advantage of the passion, knowledge, skills and tools that these people have to offer you.
Get a sponsor, go to meetings, work the steps, your higher power, have gratitude for your family, rebuild trust and learn to love yourself again. Don't carry the baggage. You can't go back so go forward. Learn to forgive yourself and love yourself.
Be accountable! Take actionable steps and get there! Get to where you want to be and BE all you can be. YOU can do this!
Make this one count!