Along our journey, I read the books below to see how others have dealt with addiction in their families. Also, some self-help books because let's face......we could all use a little bit of that!
If you haven't seen it already, I thought it was important to share. The staggering statistics alone are overwelming. Families have been torn apart from this disease in so many ways that there are too many to count.
Below is a small portion of the report. To see the report follow this link:
Surgeon General’s Report on Alcohol, Drugs, and Health is a comprehensive review of the science of substance use, misuse, and disorders.
Nearly 21 million people in America have a substance use disorder involving alcohol or drugs, an astonishing figure that is comparable to the number of people in our country with diabetes and higher than the total number of Americans suffering from all cancers combined. But in spite of the massive scope of this problem, only 1 in 10 people with a substance use disorder receives treatment.
The societal cost of alcohol misuse is $249 billion, and for illicit drug use it is $193 billion. What we cannot quantify is the human toll on individuals, families, and communities affected not only by addiction, but also by alcohol and drug-related crime, violence, abuse, and child neglect.
Today is "Giving Tuesday"
Parents In Connection for Kids Inc. is a 501 c 3 non for profit organization that provides Resources, Referrals to Treatment and Prevention Education to reduce the early onset of Substance Use Disorders.
We encourage the public to reach out for help, inform them, advocate for them and strive to reduce the stigma of addiction.
Please help us continue reducing overdose deaths by Donating Today using the link below.
Your donation will empower families and help them live productive, healthy, drug free lives!
All donations are tax deductible to the fullest extend allowed by law.
To make a donation to P.I.C.K. Awareness, you can either use a pay pal account, credit card or send check or money order payable to Parents in Connection for Kids, Inc. to:
Attn: Donna DeStefano
PO Box 74
Allenwood, NJ 08720
We thank you for your donations!
Below is a PSA that was shared with me today by Clodette Sabatelle from A Community In Crisis starring Tobin Heath. She addresses addiction. Please share this with anyone who you think could benefit from this and feel free to use it on your social media sites.
Recently I've been getting a lot of requests from family members and people who have substance use disorders who need help. The frustration, fear and stress that they and their loved one feel is almost beyond words.
When you are use to doing one thing over and over again it becomes the norm. It's hard to change, it becomes a habit. Good or bad, that's how it goes. Plain and simple, repetition of any kind becomes habit. If you go to the gym, run, eat healthy or if you smoke, drink, do drugs, or if you enable, are codependent, it's all the same…. Change is never easy. You have to be willing, have motivation and often times help from outside sources.
We all have a vision, dream or goal how we want our lives to be. We can say things to ourselves everyday, like…. I wish I had a better job, better shape, car, relationship, I wish I could stop drinking, stop using drugs, stop being so angry.
Unless we make an effort by first realizing our issues and acknowledging our part in them, and until we try reaching out for help and following through with advice, a set plan, and we take actionable steps to ensure a positive outcome, we will never reach our goals.
It's easy to get sidetracked and feel sorry for yourself when you hit a bump in the road. If you keep repeating patterns you will always have the same outcome. It's time to change what you've been doing and get on a new path.
There are many resources out there including then ones on this website. If you are given advice from professionals, do yourself a favor and take it! Take advantage of the passion, knowledge, skills and tools that these people have to offer you.
Get a sponsor, go to meetings, work the steps, your higher power, have gratitude for your family, rebuild trust and learn to love yourself again. Don't carry the baggage. You can't go back so go forward. Learn to forgive yourself and love yourself.
Be accountable! Take actionable steps and get there! Get to where you want to be and BE all you can be. YOU can do this!
Make this one count!
I'm beyond honored! to announce that Thomas Calcagni, who has been instrumental in launching Parents in Connection for Kids inc. by providing his support, friendship and services to making P.I.C.K. Awareness a 501 c 3, non-for profit organization has joined our board.
Thomas Calcagni is a named partner and co-founder of Calcagni & Kanefsky. Before joining the firm, Tom was the First Assistant Attorney General for New Jersey, the State’s second highest-ranking prosecutor. He previously served for two years as New Jersey’s Director of the State Division of Consumer Affairs and for nine years as a Federal prosecutor. Mr. Calcagni is a seasoned trial lawyer who focuses his practice on representing corporations and individuals in high-stakes government and regulatory investigations.
As New Jersey’s First Assistant Attorney General, Mr. Calcagni managed large-scale criminal and civil investigations and prosecutions for the 8,000-employee Department of Law and Public Safety.
Overseeing the New Jersey State Police, the State Office of Insurance Fraud Prosecutor, and New Jersey’s Divisions of Criminal Justice and Consumer Affairs, Mr. Calcagni directed hundreds of matters involving corruption, bribery, financial fraud, healthcare fraud, securities fraud, and consumer protection violations.
Prior to his 2012 appointment as First Assistant Attorney General, Tom served as New Jersey’s Director of the State Division of Consumer Affairs. In that post, Mr. Calcagni led a staff of 600 in the investigation and prosecution of both civil and regulatory securities and healthcare matters, among numerous other financial frauds and consumer law violations. During his service, the work of the agency received acclaim from lawmakers and media outlets for its effective regulation of thousands of businesses and professionals, and its proactive enforcement of the State’s Consumer Fraud Act.
From 2001 to 2010, as a Federal prosecutor, Mr. Calcagni served in the Civil, Criminal and Special Prosecution Divisions of the U.S. Attorney’s Office in New Jersey, where he investigated and successfully tried numerous high-profile matters involving fraud and public corruption.
During his government service, Mr. Calcagni received many commendations, awards, and letters of appreciation from the Department of Justice, FBI, IRS, and other federal and state agencies for excellence in investigative and trial work. In 2004, the U.S. Attorney General appointed Tom to serve on the 9/11 Victims Compensation Fund, where he presided over personal injury hearings and determined compensation awards for 9/11 victims and their families. As an Adjunct Professor at Seton Hall University School of Law for many years, Mr. Calcagni has taught Appellate Advocacy to second- and third-year law students.
Before joining the U.S. Attorney’s Office, Mr. Calcagni practiced as a litigator with McElroy, Deutsche & Mulvaney, representing both corporate and individual clients in all aspects of criminal and civil litigation. Mr. Calcagni clerked for Federal Judge Katharine S. Hayden in the District of New Jersey, and for Appellate Judge Donald S. Coburn in the Superior Court of New Jersey, Appellate Division. He graduated Cum Laude from Bowdoin College in 1994, and is a 1997 graduate of Seton Hall University School of Law where he served as an Editor of the Law Review. He is admitted to the bars of New Jersey and New York.
If you'd like to reach Tom, please contact him at:
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Watch this interview with Donna DeStefano, founder and CEO of P.I.C.K. Awareness (Parents in Connection for Kids Inc.), a non-for-profit that helps to inform families who are struggling with issues surrounding substance abuse. DeStefano shares her personal story about her daughter’s struggle with drug addiction as she seeks to help other families with information about prevention, treatment and recovery resources.
As a fellow Realtor (now a referral agent), I know how hard you all work to bring excellence, integrity, professionalism and safety to your clients. Substance Abuse is a major concern today. As someone now in the prevention field and a mom who knows all about family struggles when a family member has a substance use disorder, I decided to write this post to raise awareness about Prescription Drugs.
This photo is one of me when I worked at Gloria Nilson Realtors in Spring lake N.J.
I've done numerous open houses over the years and I don't have to tell you that you can get quite a few characters coming through the doors.
Prescription Drug Abuse is at epidemic proportions. We ALL have to raise awareness and be part of the solution.
Because I know how hard you work! I wanted you to have all the TOOLS to have a successful outcome, The following is a partial presentation that I do for Realtors. I want you to have this FOR FREE! It's so important to raise awareness about Substance Use Disorder. I have also given this presentation to Coalitions in New Jersey to use for their campaigns!
Please use this information at your open houses, tell your clients!, discuss at a staff meeting or in any way at your agencies, OR…...call me and I will come and present it with so much more valuable information!
RX Presentation for REALTORS®
Parent’s in Connection for Kids Inc.’s goal for this presentation is to educate REALTORS® on the dangers of clients leaving prescription drug medications unattended during showings and open houses.
To sell their home, Sellers must open their home to the public. Although it doesn't happen all the time, it is a fact that theft does occur. Theft impacts the Seller in all cases and theft of prescription drugs has a larger impact on the community.
P.I.C.K. is highlighting this growing issue in the hope that REALTORS® can better communicate this potential threat to their clients. We have created educational resources that REALTORS® can use to educate themselves on the issue and then utilize with their client.
“Protect Your Meds” (Customizable Flyer, email me at email@example.com!) highlights this important issue and what steps a seller can take to prevent prescription drug theft while their house is on the market. As with all of our customizable flyers, you can add your picture, company logo and contact information to the flyer for you to print or email a copy to your seller clients.
You should talk to your clients during the listing interview. Just like you would tell them to put away their jewelry or any other valuables, you would advise putting away prescription medication.
Frequently Asked Questions – Drug Theft Prevention and the REALTORS® Role
both physical and virtual tours of the home. Note that this is good advice outside of selling a home as well. Studies have shown
that most children who abuse prescription drugs get them right from their own or a relative’s home. And Hey! Don't forget pet
Medications! Ketamine is a cat tranquilizer and my dog Oreo was on Valium!
If interested, we are providing zippered pouches for REALTOR’s® to give their clients so they can easily take meds, personal belongings and jewelry with them when they leave for a showing. Email me for info!
Also, we are providing information on Monmouth and Ocean County Prescription Drug Disposal Locations.
Is there anything the REALTOR® can do?
There are many things a REALTOR® can do to deter this (and other) theft in the homes of their seller clients.
Are there any other issues to consider?
Yes. If you require ID from one, require ID from all. Protect yourself from claims of discrimination. Also, follow your office policies in signing CSI and all required paperwork during the open house.
What should I (or the Seller) do if a theft occurs?
Do not confront the person! Call the police. The local or state police personnel have the tools and resources to deal with this and any criminal activity.
What if I only suspect someone is ‘up to no good’? Trust your instincts!
Take your suspicions to the police. Even if all you are able to do is file a report that report and any subsequent report will he the police take appropriate action. Above all, don’t be a hero and confront the person. Be Smart and Stay safe!
What are Prescription drugs?
Prescription Drugs (Opioids) are synthetic drugs that produce opiate-like effects. So when comparing opiate vs. opioid, both substances provide pain-killing effects.
Some examples of opioid drugs are:
For additional resources please visit www.pickawareness.com
You can also contact me, Donna DeStefano at firstname.lastname@example.org.
In-Service Trainings are available to individual offices and large groups.
Thank you and be SAFE!!!!!!!!!!!!
I've worked with many wonderful New Jersey treatment facilities over the years. The people who work at these agencies are passionate, caring, dedicated people who treat people with this disease as human beings. Thank you, each and every one of you!
There are many factors in placing an individual into treatment. First and foremost, It must be the right fit for the client, of course insurance or lack of has to play a role as well as many other considerations such as do they need detox, in-patient residential, IOP (Intense Out Patient) or sober living.
Recently, a woman called me to get help for her daughter-in-law. She has a heroin, substance use disorder and she was living in her car. I reached out to Barbara Cashin who is the Director of Development at Tranquil & Quest. Barbara is a CSW, LCADC and offers 35 years clinical and administrative experience. She quickly took control and was able to place the daughter in law in to detox the following morning with a follow up plan for residential treatment and sober living.
Tranquil & Quest tranquilandquest.com/our-program/ offers a 2 week detox, 30 day rehab, luxury beachside sober living, massage, best clinical practices, DBT 12 step, smart recovery, co-occurring and…….clinical services that are offered 7 days a week by Halcyon/ GenPsych!
I took a tour of the building located at 811 Ocean Ave in Bradley Beach NJ. Not only do they offer all the above clinical services, the individual condos have beautiful kitchens with a Chef who cooks breakfast and dinner, an open floor plan living room and light and breezy bedrooms. They do yoga on the beach and many more wellness activities.
I have to say, I was impressed by the whole package. Tranquil & Quest is one of the best.
If you'd like to get in touch with Barbara Cashin or need admission information, you can reach her on her cell phone at 732-910-3773. Also take a look at the website too! tranquilandquest.com/our-program.
Thank you to all the dedicated people in this field who have helped me help others. You truly are angels in this epidemic and we'd be lost without you!
Thank you to Angelo Valente, Executive Director of the Partnership for a Drug Free NJ, Steve Cline, Deputy Director for the Partnership for Drug Free Kids and Jennifer Lewis Hall, the host of PHL 17, In Focus T V for inviting me as a panel member to discuss drug awareness, parent struggles and Overdose Awareness day, August 31st.
Airing on September 3rd!
Tune in to hear about the amazing campaigns that these wonderful organizations are doing!